What Is a Viewing?

What is a viewing? It’s a question many people ask when facing the loss of a loved one.
Have you ever attended a viewing? If not, I understand how overwhelming it can feel — wanting to show up and offer support, but not knowing exactly what to expect.

This quiet gathering gives loved ones a chance to see the person who has passed away, say goodbye, and offer support to the grieving family. Whether it happens before the funeral or right before burial, a viewing is often one of the first steps in processing loss.

In this article, I’ll walk you through what to expect, how viewings differ from similar ceremonies like wakes or visitations, and how to approach the experience with care and confidence.

What Is a Viewing?

A viewing is a part of many funeral traditions where the body of the deceased is presented in a casket for loved ones to see. It’s usually held a day or two before the funeral, though it can happen immediately before the service as well.

In most cases, the person is embalmed and dressed for the occasion. The casket may be open or closed, depending on the family’s wishes, the condition of the body, and cultural or religious customs.

The viewing can be public or private:

• Public Viewings are open to anyone who wants to pay their respects.
• Private Viewings are typically limited to immediate family or close friends.

What Is the Purpose of a Viewing

The main purpose of a viewing is to provide closure. Seeing the person one last time, even in death, can make the loss feel more real and allow people to begin the grieving process.

Other reasons viewings are held include:

• To allow extended family, friends, and community members to offer condolences.
• To honor the deceased in a quiet, respectful setting.
• To support the grieving family with presence and prayers.

What to Expect at a Viewing

The Setting

A typical viewing takes place in one of the following locations:

• A funeral home
• A place of worship
• A family home

The atmosphere is generally quiet and respectful. Soft music may play in the background, and flowers or photographs might be displayed.

Open vs. Closed Casket

An open casket means you can see the person’s body. It is common in many traditions, but not required. A closed casket viewing might still include a photo or memorabilia.

Whether the casket is open or closed is a personal decision. Sometimes it depends on religious guidelines or how the person looked at the time of death.

Flow of the Viewing

There’s no formal schedule for a viewing. Attendees usually arrive, offer condolences to the family, view the body if they feel comfortable, and then quietly leave or sit for a while.

You may stay for just a few minutes or linger longer — it’s up to you.

What to Say at a Viewing

It’s common to feel unsure of what to say to grieving family members. You don’t need to say anything profound. Simple and sincere is best:

• “I’m so sorry for your loss.”
• “They were such a wonderful person.”
• “I’m here if you need anything.”

If you don’t know what to say, that’s okay too. Your presence alone means a lot.

What to Wear to a Viewing

When deciding what to wear to a viewing, it’s best to choose clothing that is:

• Conservative
• Respectful
• Neutral or dark in color

Think business casual or modest attire:

• For women: a blouse and skirt, or a simple dress or slacks
• For men: slacks and a button-down shirt, with or without a tie

You don’t need to wear all black unless it’s culturally expected. Neat, understated, and respectful are the goals.

How Long Should You Stay at a Viewing?

There’s no set time you’re required to stay. Most people remain anywhere from 10 to 30 minutes, depending on the situation.

If the viewing is for someone very close to you, you may stay longer. If you’re stopping by to show support, a brief visit is absolutely appropriate.

Always sign the guestbook if there is one — it shows your support even if you didn’t speak with the family directly.

Who Should Attend a Viewing?

Anyone who knew the deceased or wants to support the family is generally welcome.

That includes:

• Friends
• Coworkers
• Neighbors
• Community members

If it’s a private viewing, the family will let you know if you’re invited.

Children can attend, but it’s best to prepare them ahead of time. Explain what they will see, and let them know it’s okay to be quiet or have feelings.

Cultural and Religious Differences

Different faiths and cultures approach viewings differently. Here are a few examples:

• Catholic and Protestant traditions often include viewings with open caskets.
• Jewish funerals usually do not include viewings; the focus is on prompt burial.
• Muslim customs typically avoid embalming and public display of the body.
• Hindu and Buddhist customs vary widely and may or may not include viewings.

Always respect the family’s cultural or religious choices, even if they are unfamiliar to you.

Alternatives to a Traditional Viewing

Some families choose not to have a viewing at all. Instead, they might opt for:

• A memorial service
• A celebration of life
• A closed-casket service
• A slideshow or photo display

There is no right or wrong answer. The most important thing is doing what feels appropriate for the person who has passed and their loved ones.

Final Thoughts

A viewing can be a meaningful way to say goodbye, offer support, and start the grieving process.

Whether you’re attending one or planning one, approach it with respect, patience, and compassion.

No matter what your role is, understanding what is a viewing can help you feel more prepared and present.